Domestic Violence Is Not always What it Seems

Everyone is worried over the big violent men of the NFL and their domestic violence. A man beating a woman is pathetic, the sort of behavior we expect from Muslims. However, the stories often get better for the telling and the actual events may not even resemble the media reports.

I am a big muscular man. I realize that no matter what the situation, if there is a confrontation, the initial reaction by law enforcement will be to assume I am the aggressor; consequently, I try to avoid all confrontations. I was a martial artist for years, so don’t think for a minute that I am a coward. I actually like the confrontations of martial arts, maybe a little too much.

I’ve had several friends who were with various police departments and they have all told me, in an an altercation, their first instinct would be to assume I was the aggressor. I believe them.

Once, years ago, at a convention of professionals, there was a costume party. It was kind of silly, 80% of us were men and I had no intention in participating. However, while riding in a crowded hotel elevator with revelers who were into their cups, I noticed a shapely black hooker. She looked out of place in the elevator. Oh, she was attractive enough, but she was big and strong looking, not exactly my type.

I figured one of the guys had just had his ashes hauled, and I was not going to pass judgement on anyone. Whatever floats your boat, is what I say about such diversions.

When the elevator reached the ground floor, I walked through the lobby toward the restaurant and suddenly, I was being assaulted by the black hooker. She had jumped on my back and wrapped her arms and legs around me and was not planning on giving up the advantage. She was strong, really strong and after I struggled for a minute or two, I noticed everyone was laughing. Eventually, they let me in on the joke. The perpetrator was a doctor some of you might know, so I won’t mention names. The incident got better for the telling, and to this day, I can’t believe how my friend managed to look so much like a woman. Now, the story might not have been so funny if he had been thrown off and received a vicious punch or kick for his trouble.

This silly anecdotal story is meant to illustrate how fast things can get out of control, and how incidents of domestic violence are not necessarily cut and dry.