Domestic Violence Is Not always What it Seems

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Be Careful
Things are Not Always What They Seem

Everyone is worried over the big violent men of the NFL and their domestic violence. A man beating a woman is pathetic, the sort of behavior we expect from Muslims. However, the stories often get better for the telling and the actual events may not even resemble the media reports.

I am a big muscular man. I realize that no matter what the situation, if there is a confrontation, the initial reaction by law enforcement will be to assume I am the aggressor; consequently, I try to avoid all confrontations. I was a martial artist for years, so don’t think for a minute that I am a coward. I actually like the confrontations of martial arts, maybe a little too much.

I’ve had several friends who were with various police departments and they have all told me, in an an altercation, their first instinct would be to assume I was the aggressor. I believe them.

Once, years ago, at a convention of professionals, there was a costume party. It was kind of silly, 80% of us were men and I had no intention in participating. However, while riding in a crowded hotel elevator with revelers who were into their cups, I noticed a shapely black hooker. She looked out of place in the elevator. Oh, she was attractive enough, but she was big and strong looking, not exactly my type.

I figured one of the guys had just had his ashes hauled, and I was not going to pass judgement on anyone. Whatever floats your boat, is what I say about such diversions.

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When the elevator reached the ground floor, I walked through the lobby toward the restaurant and suddenly, I was being assaulted by the black hooker. She had jumped on my back and wrapped her arms and legs around me and was not planning on giving up the advantage. She was strong, really strong and after I struggled for a minute or two, I noticed everyone was laughing. Eventually, they let me in on the joke. The perpetrator was a doctor some of you might know, so I won’t mention names. The incident got better for the telling, and to this day, I can’t believe how my friend managed to look so much like a woman. Now, the story might not have been so funny if he had been thrown off and received a vicious punch or kick for his trouble.

This silly anecdotal story is meant to illustrate how fast things can get out of control, and how incidents of domestic violence are not necessarily cut and dry.

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Women are sometimes the ones who commit the domestic violence. It isn’t always the man.

According to anecdotal reports from police; even though 85% of those arrested for domestic violence are men, at least 60% of the actual incidents are perpetrated or initiated by the woman. However, like in divorce or custody issues, our criminal justice system is geared with a Pro-Female, Anti-Male bias.

@Skook: #3
What I meant was that there are women who are the aggressor. They are the ones who are abusing their husbands like a lot of men abuse their wives. You never hear about these women, unless an incident makes the news. Just like some women tend to stay with a wife beater, some men tend to stay with a husband beater.

I remember a case when I was a boy.

I remember a case like that many years ago. Was it on the national news?

The modern day serial killer has become a women.

No wonder women vote dem just look at these posts

The OP’s silly story is probably one in 100 million in regard to domestic violence case studies. And, as such, this unverifiable story has virtually no bearing on what we’re seeing in the NFL these days. Far too many cases of verifiable NFL player violence, domestic and otherwise, seem to have been covered-up almost entirely, or at least to some extent, by the league. This suggests that the NFL player off-field violence that we’re hearing about is just the tip of the iceberg…

This is not to mention that more than a few violent crime convicted NFL players have been allowed back into the league.

Meanwhile, many minimum wage US citizen employees are put through more stringent background checks (and drug screens) than what some NFL players seem to be subjected to these days. Seriously, Big Time wrestling has more credibility than this flag happy (get another commercial in) form of “bread and circus” entertainment.

It is a real problem in the US Hispanic community:
http://latino.foxnews.com/latino/lifestyle/2014/09/15/study-domestic-violence-widespread-scourge-among-latino-families/
30 percent of Hispanic women admitted to having been abused themselves.
39 percent named financial abuse.

I don’t think the NFL has any greater incursions of abuse than any profession. They may have more prima donas but not abusers. Construction? Police? Even certain office jobs have a high number of abusers that the NFL is below in percentage.
Why is it up to the NFL to pass judgement anyway. You work at some job and a fellow employee is accused of abuse, but like Ray Rice is not convicted and sent to jail, but ordered by the court to attend training, will the CEO or even the manager or Boss inflict some kind of sanctions on the fellow employee? Why do we want more vigilante justice? If the Justice system is not working well enough, lets fix that. Of all the possible outcomes, why would we want corporations handing out Justice? Even education camps. This is headed in the wrong direction.

@Smorgasbord:

You may remember it because Willie Nelson tells the story on himself.

@razorbacker: #11

You may remember it because Willie Nelson tells the story on himself.

A long time ago I found out he is a pot smoker, and haven’t had anything to do with him since.